Success with women
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A blog about success is not quite complete without specific, proven and brilliant advice about how to succeed with women.
So here's my advice to all men out there.
NOTE 1: This advice has been kept secret so far, only revealed to my close disciples who are so loyal to me that if someone shot at me with a pistol, they would jump out and try to catch the bullet (at least, that's what I'm hoping for). So because it is so original, you might be shocked when reading it. SO PLEASE, DO NOT HOLD IN YOUR HAND ANY HOT BEVERAGE OR YOU MIGHT SPILL HOT LIQUID ON YOURSELF AND BURN YOUR SKIN!
NOTE 2: If you are a woman, please consider carefully the fact that what women say and how they respond are not always the same. What women say often has to do with what they THINK they're supposed to say in civilized society. What they feel, especially subconsciously, is beyond society and culture and other external artifacts which exert an influence on the mind. In other words, women publicly speak with their intellect and act as "social beings" whereas they privately feel and situationally react with their heart, as "female entities." No woman can escape the biological implications, constraints and drives of her female apparatus. Another way to put it is that "women can do what they want, but they cannot want what they want." This line is so brilliant that I'll be writing a best-selling book about it!
Okay, let's get straight to the heart of the matter: How to pick up women? Because if you can't even do that, then you'll be spending the evening alone.
My secret about how to pick up women is that... I don't. I create situations where they are dying for me to "pick them up."
The secret sauce has to do with what I mentioned earlier: "Women can do what they want, but they cannot want what they want."
And most women want a superior male. A high-value male. A male that offers them what they are most desperate for, subconsciously. Of course, this depends a great deal on what their current stage of life is.
A simple implementation of the above, is to make sure every information you release about yourself to the woman, constructs -- one step at a time -- a "high-value image" that she has of you. This means you have to focus on yourself as you speak, move around, express facial expressions, etc.
In other words, do NOT focus too much on her. She's "just" like the audience in a movie theatre. You are the movie director, so focus on making the movie one that will entertain her, and excite her imagination.
Fortunately, women have a lower threshold of excitability when it comes to their imagination, and that's the great thing about them. They will easily let their mind wander into MagicLand, if (and this is a big "if") the story-teller is good enough.
Before I forget, keep in mind that story-telling skills are important because women are seduced through the ears and not through the eyes (as with men).
So let's get back to the movie metaphor. It's easy enough to go to the movies with a girl, but it's much harder to CREATE a movie in real life that she can experience and feel good about. Speaking of "feeling", here's how women feel about "feeling":
The good: Feeling good
The bad: Not feeling good (or feeling bad)
The ugly: Not feeling anything
So guys, whatever you do, do NOT bore her! Do NOT be predictable!
Understanding the above can help you create conversations and tactics that will make women feel TRULY GREAT.
For instance, you could flatter her on something, and she will feel good.
But even better is when she feels bad about something, and you say something or do something to make her feel good. (But to do this, she's got to trust you enough to share with you, as a friend, times when she feels bad. This is why it's a good idea to be a friend and don't let the famous "John, I like you as a friend" be a deterrent to further romantic advances).
Indeed, the "emotional distance" from feeling bad to feeling good is much greater than feeling okay to feeling good.
Do you understand what I'm saying?
Another example about "emotional distance" is when men compliment women. If a normal-looking guys compliments a woman, she will feel good. But if a highly successful guy (who looks like he's highly successful) compliments a woman, she will feel EVEN BETTER.
This brings us to the topic that I call "social exaltation." Women ALWAYS appreciate the presence or attention (preferably both) of men who have distinguished themselves from the crowd of undifferentiated, look-alike men. No offense to the latter, but they just all look the same. The elite always stands out from the crowd and actually stands OUTSIDE the crowd!
Thus, superior males are what I call "socially exalted entities." They exercise what I call "masterful seduction." Their mastery IS their seduction. Thus, they don't have to engage in many seductive ploys. They show up and all women turn their attention to them.
Look at Tiger Woods, for instance. He's the master of golf, a game I really don't understand. He's making millions of dollars and married a former Playboy playmate. Women, especially beautiful women, dig mastery.
Keep in mind that "se-duce" comes from the Greek, and it means "to draw to self."
However, it is far easier to obtain attention than to sustain it. Only a person who has achieved eminence or superiority, in some way, is able to sustain the attention of women.
This is another reason why success is important: it draws the attention of beautiful women.
Okay, here's something I don't get: SeekingMillionaire.com (this website was advertised by Google on PowerKnowledge.net, a site I created to help men succeed). If you're a millionaire, why would you need a "dating site" to attract beautiful women?
My theory is that those men succeeded at something that is not really their passion. Anyways, I will write a separate post on it, where I'll discuss the issue of "holistic happiness" - that is, how to make ALL the various areas of one's like work together, and not "tackle success" in each area separately.
Where was I? Yes, I was talking about seduction as "drawing attention to oneself."
Every man must strive to become excellent at what he does, for that is the only way to achieve a "socially exalted status."
Most men I know are too boring or too predictable. So even if they paid me $10,000 to find them a date, I wouldn't know where to start BECAUSE I do NOT know what they're excellent at! I can't sell what is not sellable!
In the past, I've introduced beautiful models and actresses to male friends of mine who stood out as entrepreneurs or investors. But these men are the rare exception.
That being said, you don't have to be a business man or even a rich man to attract women's attention. You just have to be darn good at what you do.
How do you become the best at what you do? Focus definitely helps.
But what could help even more is to STOP caring about what society thinks or how it dictates that a man live his life. You know, study hard, get a job, buy a house, start a family, etc.
That's boring stuff. I'm not saying it's not good. Those are things you want and deserve in your life.
But you gotta be more daring and take more risks if you are to attract women's attention. The ultimate risk perhaps is to be who you truly are, inside, and to live the life that you KNOW you were meant to live.
Many men believe that by having a car or house, they can attract more women. Perhaps a women will be attracted to your material possessions, sure, but she is as likely to be interested, later on, by another man with a bigger car or a bigger house.
By being truly yourself, and pursuing a career that reflects who you truly are, it might take longer to attract women but when you find your soul mate, she will love you for who you are, not what you have.
Most men care more about what they have than who they are, and there are reasons for that. I will write about this in a separate, upcoming post.
The funny thing is that by focusing on who you are, you incur a great deal of risk. Yet, it is the "risk" element that is exciting to women, especially young, beautiful women. Risk is titillating, predictability is not. Risk makes women feel alive, predictability makes them feel they don't even exist.
There's actually a part in the brain of a woman (and all human beings) called Broca's area, where unpredictability plays a role in exciting the whole brain.
Speaking of the female brain, there are also two areas that are closely linked: the area that regulates humor or laughter, and the area that regulates sexual receptivity.
In concrete terms, a women is more sexually receptive after she's had a good laugh.
In other words, a successful joke is part of foreplay. I'm not kidding you! After I learned about this from my own research, I began to buy and memorize LOTS of joke books!
Just kidding.
By the way, women often say that they like guys who have a sense of humor, but that is not accurate. What they want are men who have a sense of comedy, because comedic skills are pre-erotic skills. Women want to laugh because that predisposes them to, well, you know.
(This post is getting SO HOT that I'm really, really afraid that one day, my Mom will read about this and whack the back of my Catholic boy's head!. My only excuse is that I'm only trying to help fellow men find romantic happiness. I can't help it, I care about other people's happiness. Sometimes, more than I care about my own happiness.)
Okay, back to business.
If you doubt the link between laughter and sex, then notice the structure of jokes: there's the setup, where the tension is built, and there's the punch line, where the tension is explosively released. In short, setup = foreplay, and punch line = climax.
Am I saying that by studying comedy, you can become a great lover? Yes, absolutely.
It's not just the tension/climax insights you will get, but also the sharper linguistic abilities you will gain. It takes a great deal of literary and/or linguistic mastery to become a good comedian. Indeed, if brevity is the soul of wit, then linguistic skill is the heart of brevity.
Best part is, comedy is something you can study by yourself. Anytime. Anywhere.
This reminds me of the Woody Allen movie where he makes love to a Dutchess, and she says afterward: "You are the greatest lover I have ever had!!" He replies: "Yes, well, I practice a lot when I'm alone."
The lesson is that if your goal is to attract the women you want, you have to practice techniques of seduction and especially techniques that will inevitably make women FEEL GOOD about THEMSELVES.
Let me share with you, in my next post, my own romantic success stories, some of which were complete disasters and some of which were masterpieces -- yet I learned from both types of experience, for there is no "failure" per se, there is only a path of evolvement toward greater understanding and appreciation of women.
A blog about success is not quite complete without specific, proven and brilliant advice about how to succeed with women.
So here's my advice to all men out there.
NOTE 1: This advice has been kept secret so far, only revealed to my close disciples who are so loyal to me that if someone shot at me with a pistol, they would jump out and try to catch the bullet (at least, that's what I'm hoping for). So because it is so original, you might be shocked when reading it. SO PLEASE, DO NOT HOLD IN YOUR HAND ANY HOT BEVERAGE OR YOU MIGHT SPILL HOT LIQUID ON YOURSELF AND BURN YOUR SKIN!
NOTE 2: If you are a woman, please consider carefully the fact that what women say and how they respond are not always the same. What women say often has to do with what they THINK they're supposed to say in civilized society. What they feel, especially subconsciously, is beyond society and culture and other external artifacts which exert an influence on the mind. In other words, women publicly speak with their intellect and act as "social beings" whereas they privately feel and situationally react with their heart, as "female entities." No woman can escape the biological implications, constraints and drives of her female apparatus. Another way to put it is that "women can do what they want, but they cannot want what they want." This line is so brilliant that I'll be writing a best-selling book about it!
Okay, let's get straight to the heart of the matter: How to pick up women? Because if you can't even do that, then you'll be spending the evening alone.
My secret about how to pick up women is that... I don't. I create situations where they are dying for me to "pick them up."
The secret sauce has to do with what I mentioned earlier: "Women can do what they want, but they cannot want what they want."
And most women want a superior male. A high-value male. A male that offers them what they are most desperate for, subconsciously. Of course, this depends a great deal on what their current stage of life is.
A simple implementation of the above, is to make sure every information you release about yourself to the woman, constructs -- one step at a time -- a "high-value image" that she has of you. This means you have to focus on yourself as you speak, move around, express facial expressions, etc.
In other words, do NOT focus too much on her. She's "just" like the audience in a movie theatre. You are the movie director, so focus on making the movie one that will entertain her, and excite her imagination.
Fortunately, women have a lower threshold of excitability when it comes to their imagination, and that's the great thing about them. They will easily let their mind wander into MagicLand, if (and this is a big "if") the story-teller is good enough.
Before I forget, keep in mind that story-telling skills are important because women are seduced through the ears and not through the eyes (as with men).
So let's get back to the movie metaphor. It's easy enough to go to the movies with a girl, but it's much harder to CREATE a movie in real life that she can experience and feel good about. Speaking of "feeling", here's how women feel about "feeling":
The good: Feeling good
The bad: Not feeling good (or feeling bad)
The ugly: Not feeling anything
So guys, whatever you do, do NOT bore her! Do NOT be predictable!
Understanding the above can help you create conversations and tactics that will make women feel TRULY GREAT.
For instance, you could flatter her on something, and she will feel good.
But even better is when she feels bad about something, and you say something or do something to make her feel good. (But to do this, she's got to trust you enough to share with you, as a friend, times when she feels bad. This is why it's a good idea to be a friend and don't let the famous "John, I like you as a friend" be a deterrent to further romantic advances).
Indeed, the "emotional distance" from feeling bad to feeling good is much greater than feeling okay to feeling good.
Do you understand what I'm saying?
Another example about "emotional distance" is when men compliment women. If a normal-looking guys compliments a woman, she will feel good. But if a highly successful guy (who looks like he's highly successful) compliments a woman, she will feel EVEN BETTER.
This brings us to the topic that I call "social exaltation." Women ALWAYS appreciate the presence or attention (preferably both) of men who have distinguished themselves from the crowd of undifferentiated, look-alike men. No offense to the latter, but they just all look the same. The elite always stands out from the crowd and actually stands OUTSIDE the crowd!
Thus, superior males are what I call "socially exalted entities." They exercise what I call "masterful seduction." Their mastery IS their seduction. Thus, they don't have to engage in many seductive ploys. They show up and all women turn their attention to them.
Look at Tiger Woods, for instance. He's the master of golf, a game I really don't understand. He's making millions of dollars and married a former Playboy playmate. Women, especially beautiful women, dig mastery.
Keep in mind that "se-duce" comes from the Greek, and it means "to draw to self."
However, it is far easier to obtain attention than to sustain it. Only a person who has achieved eminence or superiority, in some way, is able to sustain the attention of women.
This is another reason why success is important: it draws the attention of beautiful women.
Okay, here's something I don't get: SeekingMillionaire.com (this website was advertised by Google on PowerKnowledge.net, a site I created to help men succeed). If you're a millionaire, why would you need a "dating site" to attract beautiful women?
My theory is that those men succeeded at something that is not really their passion. Anyways, I will write a separate post on it, where I'll discuss the issue of "holistic happiness" - that is, how to make ALL the various areas of one's like work together, and not "tackle success" in each area separately.
Where was I? Yes, I was talking about seduction as "drawing attention to oneself."
Every man must strive to become excellent at what he does, for that is the only way to achieve a "socially exalted status."
Most men I know are too boring or too predictable. So even if they paid me $10,000 to find them a date, I wouldn't know where to start BECAUSE I do NOT know what they're excellent at! I can't sell what is not sellable!
In the past, I've introduced beautiful models and actresses to male friends of mine who stood out as entrepreneurs or investors. But these men are the rare exception.
That being said, you don't have to be a business man or even a rich man to attract women's attention. You just have to be darn good at what you do.
How do you become the best at what you do? Focus definitely helps.
But what could help even more is to STOP caring about what society thinks or how it dictates that a man live his life. You know, study hard, get a job, buy a house, start a family, etc.
That's boring stuff. I'm not saying it's not good. Those are things you want and deserve in your life.
But you gotta be more daring and take more risks if you are to attract women's attention. The ultimate risk perhaps is to be who you truly are, inside, and to live the life that you KNOW you were meant to live.
Many men believe that by having a car or house, they can attract more women. Perhaps a women will be attracted to your material possessions, sure, but she is as likely to be interested, later on, by another man with a bigger car or a bigger house.
By being truly yourself, and pursuing a career that reflects who you truly are, it might take longer to attract women but when you find your soul mate, she will love you for who you are, not what you have.
Most men care more about what they have than who they are, and there are reasons for that. I will write about this in a separate, upcoming post.
The funny thing is that by focusing on who you are, you incur a great deal of risk. Yet, it is the "risk" element that is exciting to women, especially young, beautiful women. Risk is titillating, predictability is not. Risk makes women feel alive, predictability makes them feel they don't even exist.
There's actually a part in the brain of a woman (and all human beings) called Broca's area, where unpredictability plays a role in exciting the whole brain.
Speaking of the female brain, there are also two areas that are closely linked: the area that regulates humor or laughter, and the area that regulates sexual receptivity.
In concrete terms, a women is more sexually receptive after she's had a good laugh.
In other words, a successful joke is part of foreplay. I'm not kidding you! After I learned about this from my own research, I began to buy and memorize LOTS of joke books!
Just kidding.
By the way, women often say that they like guys who have a sense of humor, but that is not accurate. What they want are men who have a sense of comedy, because comedic skills are pre-erotic skills. Women want to laugh because that predisposes them to, well, you know.
(This post is getting SO HOT that I'm really, really afraid that one day, my Mom will read about this and whack the back of my Catholic boy's head!. My only excuse is that I'm only trying to help fellow men find romantic happiness. I can't help it, I care about other people's happiness. Sometimes, more than I care about my own happiness.)
Okay, back to business.
If you doubt the link between laughter and sex, then notice the structure of jokes: there's the setup, where the tension is built, and there's the punch line, where the tension is explosively released. In short, setup = foreplay, and punch line = climax.
Am I saying that by studying comedy, you can become a great lover? Yes, absolutely.
It's not just the tension/climax insights you will get, but also the sharper linguistic abilities you will gain. It takes a great deal of literary and/or linguistic mastery to become a good comedian. Indeed, if brevity is the soul of wit, then linguistic skill is the heart of brevity.
Best part is, comedy is something you can study by yourself. Anytime. Anywhere.
This reminds me of the Woody Allen movie where he makes love to a Dutchess, and she says afterward: "You are the greatest lover I have ever had!!" He replies: "Yes, well, I practice a lot when I'm alone."
The lesson is that if your goal is to attract the women you want, you have to practice techniques of seduction and especially techniques that will inevitably make women FEEL GOOD about THEMSELVES.
Let me share with you, in my next post, my own romantic success stories, some of which were complete disasters and some of which were masterpieces -- yet I learned from both types of experience, for there is no "failure" per se, there is only a path of evolvement toward greater understanding and appreciation of women.
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