No passion , no girlfriend
In 2005, I developed a workshop called Career Brainstorming (http://careerstorm.blogspot.com) and during that workshop, we basically help people explore and develop four dimensions of their ideal career.
One dimension is called Passion.
It recently occurred to me that for some reason, men who have boring jobs are missing out on the opportunity to develop their passion. Would a woman, in her right mind, go out with a guy who has no passion for his work?
If he cannot feel alive at work, would he be able to make her feel alive? Very unlikely.
To compensate, he could perhaps offer a nice house or a nice car, but eventually, another guy will come along who has a BIGGER house and a BIGGER car (possibly even TWO!).
Sure, there are women who are predominantly looking for a guy who offers financial security, but then I submit they are "in love" with the man's wallet or his bank account, rather than with him.
My point is that trying to find a career that one is passionate about, seems to offer the added benefit of making a person more appealing to members of the opposite sex.
In fact, in the West, we are used to dividing and separating the various parts in our lives, like "work" and "family" and "social life." But I think it's wrong.
Every human being is one person, one (hopefully) integrated personality.
If you're passionate at work, it will definitely make you also passionate in your social life. This then increases your likelihood of finding a girlfriend or perhaps even true love.
The main question I often ask myself is: "Is it possible to find true love, if you have not found your true self first?"
One dimension is called Passion.
It recently occurred to me that for some reason, men who have boring jobs are missing out on the opportunity to develop their passion. Would a woman, in her right mind, go out with a guy who has no passion for his work?
If he cannot feel alive at work, would he be able to make her feel alive? Very unlikely.
To compensate, he could perhaps offer a nice house or a nice car, but eventually, another guy will come along who has a BIGGER house and a BIGGER car (possibly even TWO!).
Sure, there are women who are predominantly looking for a guy who offers financial security, but then I submit they are "in love" with the man's wallet or his bank account, rather than with him.
My point is that trying to find a career that one is passionate about, seems to offer the added benefit of making a person more appealing to members of the opposite sex.
In fact, in the West, we are used to dividing and separating the various parts in our lives, like "work" and "family" and "social life." But I think it's wrong.
Every human being is one person, one (hopefully) integrated personality.
If you're passionate at work, it will definitely make you also passionate in your social life. This then increases your likelihood of finding a girlfriend or perhaps even true love.
The main question I often ask myself is: "Is it possible to find true love, if you have not found your true self first?"
posted by Super Peter at 11:34 AM
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